Carla Flum - My German connection on blog!

Dear Abhaya,

I wanted to write you before a long time, but the time was never there. But today I put all other activities to the side and start an attempt.

I also registered myself, Sorry for the moment still without information or picture. But I work at it, if I have again more time for me.

I was on your various sides, Wow! What you made there. Certain you puts much time and love into it. I reread many of your articles and like I said it a pleasure to read, very much interesting, also at pensive and by some I also smiled.It is unfortunate that my English is so bad, although I have the feeling that it better became already. lol ---a certain great dream!!!

For the moment I have few time for me, my father went it badly in the last days. I spent much time with him, since my father before 4 years a minor stroke had is He very sensitive.Whether I can write for too FB and BigBlog we will see in the future. Unfortunately my husband does not have on computers much interest and I must look that we are all happy.So Abhaya hope you are well, must come to the end my father is on the phone.

kind regards

Carla

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My Dearest German friend!

Gutten Tag! and

Love from India,

You make me feel awfully good by what you wrote here, I first wish good health to your father, hope he gets in shape soon, and also convey my regards to him and love to your dear Husband.

Now coming to your english, I know it is grammatically not in place at times, yet what you do intend to tell is quite clear. I feel by reading more english on the blogs from brother and the input from others you shall soon override your inability to express as well as you wish to write.

I for one do not know any German and yes I was always intersted in learning German and Russian but unfortunately I too have a limited 24 hours in a day like rest of us and there are lot of acts that require my attention. I hope you understand my views on this! I would love to write more often to you but if it is not always possible my german friend would not get angry or annoyed with me!

Smiles please!

Abhaya India

Sulbha Rai Nee Sweety

Dear Sweety

Today after that email I endorse my habd of friendship to you and Ravi. There are couple of others who could fill the bill of being in family as well as a friend! Kukki and Raghu for example! I shall not disclose all my cards at once!

There was this Shobhit Kaushal of Kanpur who found his way on Amitabh Bachchan's blog on Day 335 and an instant admirer in your mamu. Maybe the surname did matter a bit in his favour! Yet I did go to see his paintings at Worli Art & Soul Gallier. The 3 day exhibition was inaugarated by none other than Jaya Bachchan. I did visit it in the dying moments on the last day. The guy is about to die of cancer! I did get to talk to him. He is also a poet at his young age of 19! I tell you all this not because I wish to impress him upon you but that I do find that God does sometimes play a crule role with some of his own creations!

To see the intensity of my concern and love for him you will need to go to the blog which i have initiated for him at http://abhayashobhitkaushal.blogspot.com/

More later

Abhaya India March 27 2009 10:56 PM IST

Rochelle Goldman - She is Great!

Please try not to cater to one person’s desire within all of your extended family. That person may be a minority of one. The rest of us may want to read all of your thoughts no matter how long a post it is. Even though it is sometimes overwhelming, it is a pleasure to get such long posts from you. Please don’t edit yourself in any way. If someone does not want to be bothered with all that you write, that person can refrain from partaking of the whole package. I love to read the many ideas which you are able to fit into one entry.

Congratulations on finishing the Malaysia schedule so efficiently. It sounds like everyone had gotten their second wind. I’m glad you have a day’s travel rest to recuperate between projects.Sundays for me in the TV broadcasting industry usually mean just another day of work with lousy train schedules and the subway service disruptions causing havoc.

I feel I cannot contribute to the debate on children and competition. All I know is that the sports channels here at work even televise High School sports these days. I must go because I’m leaving this channel to give breaks and haven’t even finished checking my log yet.

Have a safe and enjoyable trip back. I know Shanouk must be missing you.
Love,

Rochelle

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Rochelle.. ok got the point.. shall not restrain.. and wish you well with the channels.. and Shanouk is getting a little wild, he bit an office sec too.. getting him calmed down now..

Elena Seredkina - Russia

I think I can not be partial to one or the other - Elena or Zhenya - Abhaya

Dear Sir,

I do not know, whether the professional I am, but I do not have Sundays. Today I am sitting also as always among books or with my laptop and prepare my endless reports (or lectures). Or read the next new clever philosophical book. However, “Sunday” can come unexpectedly to me in any day… Thank God, I am not obliged to be at the office from 9 mornings till 6 evenings! I often feel myself free as a bird… And you, Sir?About the children of 21st century.Yes, this is an acceptable 21st century phenomena. They are absolutely different from us. It comes a new epoch. They live in the Information Society. Web 1.0! Web 2.0! Web 3.0!!! They live in the Supercommercial Society. And yes, they know very well the worth of money. They make their business very well. They are like more “small adults”.And we, Sir, seems to me more often “big children”. Paradox!!…

I remember your post about your nice grandchildren and “Hitech” (Day 278). You have touched upon a very important problem… There is also one of the main problems of modern civilisation: the break between generations in the society, which “digitalizes” very rapidly. You wrote that your dear wife and you feel sharply that your grandchildren have gone far ahead. You follow them with your eyes with sad admiration. Is it good or bad? I think, here are two sides – plus and minus.With plus is all clear. But with minus…

The information culture lowers some of the most important child’s abilities, at first the ability to imagine (fantasy)! It is a result of the total visualization of the modern mass media culture. Pictures (comics, films, clips etc.) drives back on the periphery of the mind the abilities to perceive text, word (literature, poetry). The images are given! There is no matter to imagine something! As it is possible by reading a book. (As said haha unique Bush “One of the great things about books is sometimes there are some pictures”). And now another scientific fact – the memory of children becomes worse, because there are external storage devices and the streams of information are too huge. But information is not always knowledge. Sometimes it is waste!

But however there is a new world, new culture, new abilities in this seething caldron of the 21th age! And we should take it. And we shouldn’t lose our children, grandchildren, students. We have to be together in such a difficult and creative epoch like our!And more important…Our children should learn to be again a natural carefree boys and girls.And we should help their…

LENA

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Lena.. good debate and thank you for your inputs.. love

Lyudmila Zueva - Russia Day 334

Dearest Amitji.!

Write, my precious.! I more than am assured that all at you will turn out! You need to make it and I think, your father would approve your desire. Be not afraid to be not understood. Yes, it is uneasy, to write the preface to Madhushala, but it was written by your father and you, his son, should not refuse in first attempt at writing on the preface! Others cannot simply make it because they others, but you the son of the great poet of India and you can! I completely support you, what would not be your decision and sincerely wish good luck in it. Let the feather in your hand becomes a gold word.! My love to you and support in all.Blessing God, my dearest Amitji..

Sincerely yours

Lyudmila.

Zhenya Sannikova - Russia

I think she is very special fro some reasons. More specifically that She had sent some of brother's pictures to him from his time he spent in Russia. The three pictures were part of the blog for a long time!

Of course that alone is not the only reason that I have chosen to befriend her, that is one f the reasons, though! Zhenya I would like to know more of your interaction with Amitabh Bachchan! I did want to learn Russian and that is for tow other Russian friends besides you.

Abhaya

Dearest Friend!

I am little uncertain as to what should I tell you! Yes, I do love and respect you for that reason also, not for that reason alone. I love you for being a human being, I also respect you for being a woman and above all for showing so much interest in my country and me, someone who has replied back to my mails without knowing too much of me is not a small matter. I do not knwo whether you have read my comments on brother's blog. I sincerely say that I have not had the chance to read much of yours but the mention by the great AB does put you in that special class that people like me would always extend a hand of friendship.

Why not tell more about yourself. I would henceforth not disturb you with unnatural questions to you! You shall not be directed by me to behave in any one particular way or the other. I have enough space in my heart so I would not mind continuing to write to you separately. Please excuse me if I would have hurt you for any other reason. Feel free to express yourself. This life is short and we both have to make the best use of the time that has been made available to us. I love you equally if not more than some of the other fellow bloggers.

Das vi danya.

TC

Abhaya Sharma

Preeti K - (MD, USA) Day 334

Hi Dear!

It is always a pleasure to know more about you! thanks for the picture. Though to be frank I do not understand whether you did the book, you purchased a ciopy or you were gifted the book! Elaborate! If you get time!My niece Manasi would be in India during mid - April I would find out if she could get in touch with you. Only if you could send me some details as your email id. or is it here on the FB. ...

More later

Abhaya

lol...Abhaya ji...that is me waiting in line to get the book signed. I actually bought da book. :P

Dear Amitabh Uncle Ji,

I hope all is well with you. Glad to hear that your shooting schedule is on schedule and that you are ready to go home from this leg of the shooting. I was catching up with your blog as I didn’t have any time over the weekend to do so. I was busy over the weekend with a gatka workshop where I had to give a small presentation about what gatka and sikhism was to a group of martial arts students. I was lucky to have both my instructors with me there, my instructor from Toronto had come down for this workshop so it was an awesome workshop. Everyone learned a lot including me.
As far as your blog entries go…i’ve seen that you have been doing a lot of pondering and thinking…and in turn making us do a lot of thinking as well. I read your entry about getting questioned about the auditions and what the kids of today have to go through. I thought that was very interesting because I think the world is becoming more and more competitive today. They have all sorts of pressures not just from home but the outside world as well. I can really see that when it comes to their school, I notice this with not only my cousins but my some friends as well. They have more pressure now to do well and be almost perfect and well rounded in everything they do. I don’t think it’s the most healthiest thing for them because as you were saying that it seems to make them miss out on their childhood. I think they are being pressurized to grow up faster that they are ready to sometimes and then they miss out on the innocence and fun of being a child.

Also about your topic today about I guess relationships is interesting as well in that what you say on there about trying to keep everything in harmony and balanced. I agree with you about that, I think sometimes if we know that something may create friction between 2 people and change the relationship between people I myself also pick the route of staying quiet and not speaking up because I think it will hurt the other person. The only time I don’t really care about the relationship and if I end up hurting the other person is when they do something wrong and that goes against my principals or morals. That is the time I will speak up…you can say in a time of injustice, because they must be told when they are wrong and especially if they themselves are hurting someone, because that’s not fair. It is never fair for anyone to make a person feel inferior or bad, as said by Elenaor Roosevelt.

Ok, Uncle back to work for me. Going to finish up some stuff and then hopefully it’ll be time to go home. Take Care. Have a safe trip back home. Chat Soon.
Peace & Blessings!

Luv,
Preeti (MD,USA)

Bharati Sharma (Millie) - The Earth Hour Girl !

Happy Birthday Shubham ! Abhaya Uncle, India.

Here is a message from her to Amitabh Bachchan that I liked. Definitely for the Satyanarayan Katha. It was such a regular feature at our Sarojini Nagar residenmce in New Delhi during school college days! I am happy to hear that you celebrate your sons birthday in traditional Indian style. My best wishes to Shubham. My son Amrit completed 10 on November 16 in 2008.

Love and regards to you and family!

Abhaya

Dear Amit ji
Namaskar!!!
You, your travel, your shoot and your experience in different parts of the world, it feels wonderful to hear from you first hand rather then the media who mix it with all the spices to make it chatpata. Even with such a busy schedule everyone in the family is so well knit and aware of each others move………..amazing.
On the personal front, reading your wonderful thoughts gives a soothing effect to my mind after a hectic day’s work. I am always eager to reach home and open my laptop to read your blog.

It is going to be a real busy day tomorrow as it is my son Shubham’s 10th Birthday. We have arranged for a ‘Satyanarayan Katha’ and ‘Havan’ @ 3.00 pm after Shubham comes from school and then the regular cake cutting with a small gathering of friends at home.

One humble request, If you get a chance to read my comments can you please wish SHUBHAM on his birthday. That you be the best birthday gift for him.

Need to be in bed now.
Good luck for another beautiful morning and a great day ahead

lots of love to you and EF
Bharati Sharma (Millie)

Glasgow

Deeapk T - I loved it on day 331!

Dear Mr. Bachchan,
Your and our childhood appear so similar.North India summer winds of Loo and dry heat is nostalgic to think about. Heart filled Matka or Surahi water with unique cool flavor, and a water-filled brass ‘paraat’ placed in the center of the room right under a slow moving DC fan hooked to a high ceiling girder in an attempt to keep temperature marginally down, and all doors and ‘roshandaan’ closed to prevent hot wind in, and smell of wet ‘khas’ carpets on windows that needed regular sprinkle of water, and then playing of Ludo or Snake-and-ladder or Vyapaar during summer vacations is how I spent my childhood in a huge government stone house baked from outside under scorching Sun. Alas we had to leave that place once my father retired.
We had left the house with a heavy heart, keeping a brave face but a deep cry within. I had gone to our Neem and Pipal tree to bid them a good bye, and a good bye to all squirrels living on them and sparrows that had made nests inside our rooms and veranda with our support, and I had touched each and every wall and door and window bidding them a good bye for never to return. The house had a personality, a part of which I still carry within me. The house was our protector in all our ups and downs, our companion in all our unfair weathers, a source of assurance and aspiration during our early upbringing. How I could leave that abode, only I can feel and know.
So was the childhood that was so similar to that of yours.
Thank you Mr. Bachchan for taking me to my childhood companions of Rain and Summer and the House and everything around it.

Regards

Deepak T

I also loved your views on facebook and large set of probable questions for the lunch quiz! I know I am not going to participate as some anu wije would be making a proxy on my behalf, she has hijacked my address! Hope you make it there!

Deeapk wrote on FB -

I firmly believe, Animals, Birds and even non-living natural things have a personality of their own, matchable with that of human beings. In animals I can see who they resemble among my known people ... here is a beautiful unknown bird I saw first time today right in front of my window, and yes she does match someone I know in her beauty and grace.

And I replied back ...

That is wonderful! I know I used to relate my life to plants. I had tried to rejuvenate a dying bela plant during my school days and had related it to my success in NDA. The plant did get on its root and had a bud, I could not see the flower as someone had plucked it before I could get to have a look.And you know I succeded in written exam, passed my SSB, was medically fit but I missed joining Khadakvasala in 1977 but by four positions in the merit list! Such is the life! ...

Abhaya

Yes Deepak I would certainly like to know more of you !

Ravi P Malhotra on Day 331 ! Beautiful Sir !!

Dear Amitji,

Good Evening. Mitti ki soundhiya khushboo ki yaad dila di aapne. The rain enjoyed by the young and grown up alike is a special feeling of being under the pouring clouds. The drenching gives a special pleasure of the rain. One can say a special natural holi with clean colours. The only colours visible later when the sun comes out of the rain clouds. The colours of the rainbow. Not always but when present give us the span from earth to heaven or horizon to horizon.The Director’s presence of mind needs to be appreciated and shooting in natural downpour may bring that special omen to the film. Capturing moments that need not be instructed to smile and be happy. Natural reactions of happiness captured on celluloid will have their telltale special effects. The usage of nature to the fullest makes the scenes so special. No undue cuts might have been ordered. Who wants to cut happiness spontaniously generated by minds freeing themselves like children in flashback of life.Hope you and everyone will enjoy and remember this for the rest of their lives. A downpour on sets converted in to scenes of the movie. Away from artificial rythmic showers which a layman also makes out is parallel to Gardner watering plants.The heat of North India and especially the region you lived is terrible. Very difficult to bear and so much care is needed to save life from sunstrokes so common there. I was having daal with the raw mango gittak for the khatta effect and remembered pannah the summer drink you mentioned. Your mother prepared with surahi water. Life was lived with support from nature to the maximum. How many of us still enjoy shade of a tree in summer. We would run to an AC room and pass the afternoon heat. Nature is lost and left behind only for special occasions. Truely we tour nature once in a while whereas earlier we lived immersed in nature.Amitji whole my life I have not used a few things and prominent amongst them is a rain-coat or an umbrella. However very recently a few years back my friend came to know this and gifted me an umbrella. A big black simple one. He had also gifted exactly same one to another of his dear friend. Unfortunately first time I used it on the day of his funeral. To my utmost surprise I saw same in the hand of his other friend and he knew that the two were purchased together for gifting to both of us. I haven’t used that umbrella again but it is a very valuable possesion. Sometimes what we can’t buy easily becomes a habit and one learns to live that way. Without raincoat and an umbrella decades lived hopping and jumping as the rains stopped or selectively getting wet and drenched.Another thing I am used to live without is a wrist watch and a ring on any finger. My freedom of time you can call. My father tried giving me watches so also I got from father in law but my habit of not using them remained. Now I don’t even have a wristwatch under my ownership. Ofcourse there are many other things which may seem stupid but I am what I am. I don’t use shaving cream. No aftershave. No perfume. No powder. And may be many other essentials people or my children can’t live without. Second pair of shoes is a luxury. When my wife bought 2500/- shoe for me I was upset it is so expensive and did not use it for more than a month till it became absolute essential.All said and done rain makes us children again. Your heart danced to the beats of the childhood and as you rightly said we feel you describe children and secretly visit your children in heart.One last question would you still have lunch with me who does not know how to use a fork and knife. I prefer eating with my hand and am happy with minimal in my plate. Even a sabji roti or daal chawal is ok for me. My preffered sweet dish is jaggery and best snack is a creamroll or khari. Will you play in the rain with EF. A rain of love and affection. There is always pleasure in small things of life seldom they can be purchased. God gives them in abundance to everyone and wants it that way to enjoy life.Good luck to the man who saw happiness in a passing shower.

Regards

Ravi P Malhotra

My additions:

Ravi Malhotra becomes my senior by being a part of the KVIAN culture. I respect a lot the kind of education and the atmosphere that was present in the Kendriya Vidyalaya in India. He is from Dehu Road, and I did my schooling in KVs at Air Force Station Agra, Aberdden bazaar, Port Blair and IIT, Delhi.

Please do not go by the order in which persons are being added here, it has nothing that could speak of any priority, it is by chance that Rose was first and Ravi sir makes his appearance only today! I definitely can not put everyone at the same time! can I!

Abhaya India March 20 2009 9:57 AM IST.

Kishore Bhatt - A man too close to AB !!

LOL !Nice one! and very apt! atleast where you put me! If I could translate I shall do so on the blog! Quite meaningful for me! A good work! The second verse means a lot - and I know this that Kishore or Rajesh do not need niether translation nor transliteration, they have pulled up a nice one! In a nutshell, when you achieve something you seem to loose interest in your achievement. When you do not you aspire and make lot of efforts. So there is more fun not in achieving but in efforts to achieve! Am I right on this dudes! Brother has achieved so much in life yet he sets new goals for himself! Could I be wrong on this guys! Life is in moving ahead and seeking new goals!

Abhaya

Kishore, I have also commented on one of the pictures of your three children. I have a wish that my friends atleast comment on this blog telling a little more about themselves. No, no I do not seek too private details but I am sure one could always tell aout their origins and education and interests (shd. be available on FB though!).

Here is the transliteration into english of the second verse -

Us pyaale se pyaar mujhe jo, door hatheli se pyaala

us haala se chaav mujhe jo, door adhar se hai haala

pyaar nahi paa jane mein hai, paane ke armanon mein

paa jata tab, haay, na itani pyaari lagati madhushala !

Though I have explained the meaning in the message that I posted above. I comple it again for your sake -

I love that cup of wine which my hands can nopt reach

I enjoy that wine more, that is further from my lips

The fun is not so much in getting as it is in such expectations

If it were easily accessible Oh, I might not have loved it so! (madhushala) !

I hope it makes some sense. and hopefully you are able to read the transliteration into english.

Enjoy life!

Abhaya sharma India arch 20 2009 6:15 PM IST

Satyam Bhai - I am a Friend!!

I do not offer olive branch but offer you Roses! Abhaya.

“…. you have such a marvelous mind.. and you are so learned.. each response of yours is a gem worth storing for posterity.. keep writing and enlightening us with your deep sense of knowledge and wisdom.. thank you”

That is what Amitabh Bachchan wrote of you, I begged to differ but did I question your genius altogether, never, not intentionally even if you got such a feeling! Can we just put the day behind us and look forward to more constructive phase of life! I can see you are nodding in affirmative - that is a sign of a genius!

Though I was thinking to include more of my comments and your counter comments I decided to be short, sweet and appreciative, you did respond beautifully though to my comments! thanks!

Dear Satyam bhai!
Good Morning,

I know if you read my today's post here you should get a feel of what I had to say of my last two days of the comments. It sure is my undoing to be thinking to brief brother, but then, if you read carefully, I have never questioned your genius or skills, we disagreed on some counts and that is perfectly all right with me.

I know intelligent people, and i do put you in that frame, even if I do not completely agree with brother's extravagant comments. You did deserve some honors after all but probably he has not been as kind to many others as he has been to you or even to me! I know where or what standard my poetic skills put me - an activity to just write out my thoughts and nothing more than that - yet he says brilliant! And I know it is much less than that!

Why does he have to honor me or you in such great style, you may be deserving it a bit not me in any case! I had been seeing you - not as competitior but also as a fellow blogger who was more skilled than some of us but then as I said his ratings were over the top, and I would say that again- Does his being Amitabh Bachcchan deprive us to weigh and scrutinise his responses to our responses. Before, I say any further than this let me tell you that you do deserve a place on my blog not for these unexpected castigating remarks but for your ability to collect and present your stuff. I think I over reacted to SM contents maybe because I feel too pissed about anyone calling my countrymen slumdogs. I might as well see the movie if Danny drops that part of the name and removes the scene of the Shit jumping! If you do read Hindi there was a poem with these subjects in mind! Ham jhuggi mein rahane valon ko gali ka kutta kahate ho! I am sorry Satyam even God would find it difficult to make me see the slumdog with these two issues not corrected! So please don’t see too much of that anger on that particular post from London tabloids it was not directed unto you it was not even against the Danny Boyle it was against naming of the movie and of the scene.

I only wish you the very best and also should never ever question brother, you probably forgot to read that I can not be an AB even in my next seven births, that was a sort of feeling to express that I actually should not have been saying what I did! It is all right, I am generally never regretful of my acts and I am not here to eat my words but to let you know despite these two posts you are held in very high esteem, though again not as high as brother puts you! I have considered you a friend before I will continue to do so in future. Your comments along with my these comments should find their way on abhayafriend.blogspot.com may be ahead of few others whom I rate higher for my own reasons. Let me be straight on this - you would have otherwise also found the space after some time interval. As a remedial measure to assure you and the rest that confrontation was not the intent yet it did appear as that. Am I not a human being enough to be allowed to err once in a while.

I hope you as well as brother Amitabh would probably get to understand me after this post and possibly overlook the posts of day 328 and 328(i). I am not here to confront or contradict but to be engaged in a constructive mode. Now can I expect a two lines from you stating that you do understand my point of view. That you do think that I can be allowed to be wrong in some of the perceptions specially on trying to educate Amitabh Bachchan!

Abhaya India March 19 2009 8:55 AM

ab (Click to see Activities)
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Abhay I read you well.. as i am certain will Satyam.. it is because we care that we express.. if we did not we would not.. one should embrace this feeling as positive rather than one of dissent..

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A note for Abhaya. I have read your latest comment thoroughly as well. If you note I was always in agreement with you. At the very outset I suggest that Amitji had been too kind with his words. I myself think I am not deserving of them!

Alok Da was more of a friend than a brother!

… to bring in the first child of the new generation of the family Bachchan. My Father named her Shwetambari - the Goddess that is dressed in white, Shwet, Saraswati the Goddess of learning. We started calling her Shweta and it remained with all of us.
Happy dear Brother!

I am happy for you to be human once again in exalting so much for the love and joy for the first child that we all now know is Shweta or Shweta Nanda to most of us to be precise a mother of two - .Navya and Agastya ..

Well, I did not get to see the post yesterday night and I am pushed down to a lowly 300 odd number amongst the postings! Shweta dear, please accept my best birthday wishes for yesterday. May you achieve all that you have ever wished and contemplated for your own existence in this world! May you have the best of times now and always! May you also turn out to be as good a parent as your father and your grandfather did! May you also have the best of times with your two lovely children and Nikhil.

It was a pleasant morning surprise, I just got out of my car after dropping Savita and on my way to have the first smoke of my day .. Dr. Banerjee on his morning walk from behind uttters so how are you! I was totaly caught unaware yet since I knew his voice so well, I respnded from my subconscious - Good morning Sir. He walked away with hsi security guards probably thinking who this guy is! that the head od the most prestigious unit offers to seek of his welfare! I thank god for his blessings! Dr. Banerjee had once jokingly addressed me Professor. There was some mail from US - or rtaher a reprint which I had asked and the sender had addressed me Prof. Abhaya Sharma. That day on the 2nd floor of Mod Labs D-block, the young Dr. Banerjee on seeing me calls alod Het Professor there is a mail for you! I was blushing at his mention, I blushed more today for his so how are you, more for the reason despite being addressed professor by hum and keen interest of others I did not register or made efforts to get a doctorate! Does it really matter! Not so much other than it would have extended my name to be Dr. Abhaya Sharma. I personally would have liked to be known simply as Abhaya, I would rather prefer to drop my surname than add a degree against my name!

March 18 1994 was that fateful day when I was asked by our neighbours in 1506 Nilgiri that there is a call for you. I did not have a tlephone then. The call had announced the story of my brother Alok in Ankleshwar having been shot dead! mere paaon ke neeche se jaise jameen hi khisak gai thee! Not knowing how to react or what to do! Such were the times and at that time it had not crossed my mind that some time back I had proffered to him - bhai, do not pick up fights or quarrels at such an age - on his asking why - some force forced me to say - murder ho sakta hai! I could never be as unhappy for my predictions as that one.

I remeber brother, when I did narrate his story you had offered a comment - I onserve your point, may peace with you! I would do anything for peace to be with him! that he rests in peace! Brother(Alok da!), I miss you as much as I missed you since March 18 1994. May your soul rest in peace, I know I am not helping that cause by remembering you so much! Here are few songs I would dedicate to him to his memory -

1. Aa laut ke aaja mere meet tujhe mere geet bulate hain

2. Oh jaanewale ho sake to laut ke aana, ye ghaat tu yeh baat kahin bhool na jana

3. Jinhe ham bhulana chahen vo aksar yaad aate hain

4. Chupke-chupke raat din ansoo bahana yaad hai, hamko ab tak ashiqui ka vo jamaana yaad hai ( that was his most favourite song!)

5. Zindagi pyaar ki do chaar ghadi hoti hai..

Some more additions as an after thought ..

1. Tere jaisa yaar kahan kahan aisa yaraana

2. Jo tumko ho pasand woh baat karenge

3. Hawaon pe likh do hawao ke aam

4. Yeh hawa yeh raat yeh chandni

5. Jaane kahan gaye wo din kahate thhe teri yaad mein ..

Brother (Amitabh Bachchan), maybe today I would not mind if you could once again console me, that yes, Abhaya life must go on!

Abhaya Sharma India March 18 2009 8:25 AM IST

Subhash Kaura - The man with many Quotes

Dear Subhash ji,

A special thank to so many quotes and each in a separate post makes it easier for a person like ,e to rate them, I somehow do not mind rating posts, generally, I have found that I get to read the ones from you in particular for your wise quotes. But this time around your mention of the constructive use of the blog finds an immediate admirer in me!

My USIS post was with the intention of forming such a body if not a governmental lelvel yet possibly at organizational levels. I for one realise that Pakistan is not flooded with terrorists alone it has some good number of educated people and it counts! I do not wish that India or any country pumps in all the money for development of few cities like Delhi, Bombay or Calcutta. There has to be larger interest in taking more of the cities to the status of these cities. That it is possible is not what I dream, I think it is well nigh possible if like minded people could take few steps in those directions.

I know today, the condition of Pakistan is deteriorating - the world over they have quite a tarnished image not in harbouring the terrorists alone but even in their internal matters. If in the hour of need the International community just scoffs or continues to find faults with them does one expect that they will be able to come out of their present wretched state of affairs.

Somehow I put a lot of emphasis on education, so I wish I could devise some strategy which is acceptable and viable and at the same time promises to be progressive in nature. It was with this intention that I do not mind India to adopt English as the medium of education at the very early stage. That I feel even a fifth standard pass is better equipped than an illiterate I do propose that there be a need to atleast assure that every one of our child atleast gets to write one board exam at the fifth standard level. That if we could promise education to our masses alone can we be able to execute some of the other awareness programs including population control. (Some day I would talk about the vertical proliferation of our population as the ones who should control do not exercise restrain and those who can afford do not want more children!)

Now, someone who is not exactly fearless - I admit that I am fearless only for namesake. I wish I could exercise my name with a bit more authority but no it does not happen that way, I have my own set of fears and some of the fears are also strengthened by the words of those who are concerned about my welfare or for those whose welfare has been entrusted unto me! I hope sister Kashmira reads this and forgives me for crossing the warnings which she issued with a very good and honest intent.

I have decided to hold my views on elections, electioneering, cleansing of the process and system as I realise akela chana bhaad nahi phod sakta! Yet I would try to raise my voices on anything that I feel could be instrumental in taking not only India a litlle forward but also makes the world a better place to live!

With these words and a great affection to you and sister Kashmira and Ravi sir ( He is my senior KVian), I admit that I would continue to pay heed to your words as much as is possible yet also speak out when I am too strongly convinced about a subject! I know sometimes one could be wrong even with strong convictions!

I would not mind being a host (a support to be of some help in things that I know!) to some of the people that I have come to befriend here. You are one of the frist few on that list and Kashmira Di is not far behind! One could approach me for any possible help on web related matters. I know I can not support every question pertaining to the issue yet I could provide the basic ingredients to take some of the people beyond writing blogs througn some of the free website hosting sites like angelfire, geocities or tripod for example. There may be a limitation of the space yet I feel for personal ends a space of 20 MB that comes with angelfire is no less if one knows how best to make use of it!

I think these last words have come as an extended post script, I have this habit of being quite detailed which is sometimes not exactly necessary, I know that is not a good and healthy habit but then who said habits are healthy or they are supposed to be alwasy good!

Absolute morality leads logically to absolute intolerance.
~Michael Shermer

Abhaya Sharma, India March 16 2009 IST 11:26 AM IST

Post Script : In case you do feel that I should not include your family phoyograph here, please let me know, I would respect your views! And I am sorry for I had unduly dragged you into that Satyam controversy! I can not hide my feelings!

Littlle Cute Chubby Reeham

Dearmost Little cute chubby Reeham!

I am very proud of being a friends with you! I am delighted to say thanks a lot for the wonderful gifts for Amrit, though the main things were pilfered and did not rech us - the rest of things including the beautiful card, the awesome T-shirt Mobile add-ons Egyptian Calendarand also the egyptian CD. Is there some way that I can really express my thanks to you from Amrit. He was not here at the moment but he said that you had even called up. I will need to check that, I am short of words to clearly state the state of my mind. That There exist on this earth people like you and Gisele who would go any way to extend their support to their friends. You people are true angels I must say. If I could someday be of some help to my cute little chubby Reeham I would be honored. May god bless you with the best of everything that you seek including a loving lfe companion. I wish there are few more Reehams in this world.

Love

Abhaya

Reeham is one of the only person from the blog wioth whom I have had a real conversation, she had called on several occasion yet I could only catch up with her only on third or maybe fourth attempt by her! A very special person on my list of friends! maybe as important as Gisele my American author friend. That reminds me Gisel has still not made her entry here!

My love to Reeham as always! Abhaya

Kashmira Grewal - Di, I love you!

My dear Abhaya,

First of all, I'd like to put your mind at rest on one count....I have learnt in life, that NO inputs coming my way, whether in agreement or otherwise, is damaging or offensive.....they are just what they are....inputs! I value yours too on the story which I had c/pasted the other day on the blog! It makes a lot of sense, at least for me, to be able to see things from different perspectives. So you're welcome anytime, my friend, to further enhance my understanding of things in various shades! As for the story itself, I find any such material worth sharing....they do hold a deep insight...though it may not necessarily find favour with every point of view!

Rahi my having seen more life or having gained more experience ki baat, toh I must say one thing here, Abhaya.... wisdom has got nothing to do with age! Like I say always - growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional. So please do not be apologetic about airing your views....you are one of the most read and respected people on the blog, and will remain so in the future too! It takes great courage to be honest, and if anything, you should be happy that you are able to put forth your views so simply and with such sincerity! It is very obvious that there is no malice in your words, so do continue to do justice to your own thoughts and perspectives - they will always be received well, for the simple reason that they are meant well! And about your mention of 'chapne ki kala'....no kala can be as pristine as sincerity!

You have a good day ahead too, God Bless.....

Kashmira

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My dear Abhaya,

It was with great relief that I read your message today - yesterday, after reading your comments, I must admit, I had panicked a bit - owing to the report in the news paper....Ishwar karein hamare E Pariwar pe koi aanch na aaye! Abhaya, our sentiments in writing anything is of no consideration/meaning at all to the authorities....you do understand that. You know, I know and the others do too, that you mean well, and it was a very novel and original idea, but in the eyes of the law.....aap samajh rahe hai na? Ham ek aise daur mein hai, jaha insaan kisi bhi tarah ki seedhi baat nahi kar sakta hai, aur bajaye ke usoko prohotsahit karein, ulta un par tauhmat lagaye jati hai. There is this one young boy, who has started a community on the FB, against the wrong doings of Raj T and his MNS, and he has been booked by the law, for making 'inflammatory' comments/remarks which could jeopardise the peace and unity of the country! And this has been okayed by no less than the Chief Justice of India, Mr. KG Balakrishnan! His statements were all over the n/papers and tv channels two days ago.

So please, in your own interests and safety, do not put such matter on a public forum now. But do save it for the future....like you said you will do. One never knows when we'd need ideas such as these!I am honoured by your respect and the 'darja' you give me as of an elder sister! Believe me, I am grateful to you, and I hope I shall be able to live upto your expectations as such! Aur ek baat, Abhaya, jo saaf dil insaan hote hai unhe chupane ki kala seekhne ki zaroorat nahin hoti hai.

God Bless!

Regards and best wishes,

Always,

Kashmira

Friends - Rose C

TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING
THROUGH THE DESERT .
DURING SOME POINT OF THE
JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
IN THE FACE


THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
SAYING ANYTHING,
WROTE IN THE SAND ,

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE ..


THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
WHERE THEY DECIDED
TO TAKE A BATH .


THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
MIRE AND STARTED DROWNING,
BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.


AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
THE NEAR DROWNING,
HE WROTE ON A STONE:



"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SAVED MY LIFE"


THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
ASKED HIM, "AFTER I HURT YOU,
YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,

YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?


"THE FRIEND REPLIED"
WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.


BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES
SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
WHERE NO WIND
CAN EVER ERASE IT"


LEARN TO WRITE
YOUR HURTS IN
THE SAND AND TO
CARVE YOUR
BENEFITS IN STONE.


THEY SAY IT TAKES A
MINUTE TO FIND A SPECIAL
PERSON,
AN HOUR TO
APPRECIATE THEM,
A DAYTO LOVE THEM,

BUT THEN ,
AN ENTIRE LIFE
TO FORGET THEM.


DO NOT VALUE THE THINGS
YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE, BUT VALUE
WHO YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE!


AND IF I HAPPEN TO GET IT BACK,
THEN I KNOW MY PLACE IN YOUR LIFE


With love

This was the message from Rose Cee my beautifully minded friend on brother's blog! I can say that I have Rose in my life, and I am happy about it!